Thursday, September 20, 2007

Mr. and Mrs. Clintonville Big Momma, Nine years and still going strong

Yesterday was our 9th wedding anniversary. I was out of town for work, so there was no celebration. A fellow coworker was on campus with me yesterday and I told him that it was our anniversary while we were eating lunch. His first comment was, "Go home. You should celebrate with your man!" Agreed. Anniversaries deserve to be celebrated, especially in a world of two minute marriages. But, I truly feel that this occasion shouldn't be only celebrated one day a year. When you have that right person in your life, you should celebrate that every day. Marriage is work, but it is work that comes with rewards. Those rewards should be cherished. OK, I'm bordering on being cheesy, so I'll stop.

I am a product of divorced parents. My parents divorced during my freshman year of college. It was quite a difficult period for me, but really more difficult for my sister who is six years younger. She lived at home and had to deal with the reality of our parent's divorce every day. Because I experienced a happy home life for so many years, their divorce crippled me in many ways. Unfortunately I didn't realize this until years later. I was convinced, for many years, that I would never marry. I thought that marriage was a joke and felt that it was a bond that was too easy to break. But, I met the right guy and all of that changed. Thankfully, otherwise I would have missed out. I came to realize that the right marriage can empower you, make you a better person. It has challenged me in many ways over the years, and I have learned a lot. I still don't understand why when my husband gets a glass out of the cabinet he doesn't shut the door, but the reality is that it is a lot easier to just shut it than to worry about it or question it. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. That is probably the biggest thing I have learned from my husband. He is Mr. Laid Back, Mr. No Worries. And I don't mean that in a reckless sense. I have always been Mrs. Psycho Path, Mrs. High Strung. A natural born worry-wart. I have learned that I can't change who I am, but that I can learn from those who do better than I do.

So I guess what I am trying to say is, yeah us for being able to pulling this off for nine years. After nine years we are still in love and like one another. My man totally gets me, and I appreciate that. So, Mr. Big Momma, maybe we can get our celebration on this weekend, during Jr.'s golf outing, grocery shopping, etc. It is those everyday moments in life that are the most special. Cheers to us for the last nine years and cheers to the years to come. It will be interesting to see what the future bring. I am sure that it will be great!


Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary! I see your were blogging as I was stalkingly calling you last night.

Butta Buns said...

Happy Anniversary Missus and Mister! I think that's wonderful that you're so happy. You're absolutely right that in the this day and age of 2 minute marriages and a sky rocketing divorce rate, it's sweet to see people grow together so well. It's sad that 9, 10, 15+ anniversaries are extrememly rare these days.

I was also a child of divorced parents plus pretty much 9 out of 10 people I know come from the same background, so I was marriage phobic for many years. I made my SO wait for over 6 years but we finally tied the knot this summer. Definatly worth the wait. Congradulations again!

Big Momma said...

Thanks Butta Buns!

Tricia said...

Holy Mackerel--has it been so long? Seems like only yesterday! By the way, thanks for putting me in one of the few good bridesmaid's dresses I had the pleasure of wearing. Gotta love Alan Ray bridal!